Hi, Sis!

February 16, 2009 by Sherryness, of course · Leave a Comment • Filed under: Just Life 

I’m so glad Donna, aka Cupcake, updated her blog – It’s only been FIVE MONTHS! Sheesh. 🙂 The spa sounds fun – I wish I wasn’t so busy – I would partake in that!

This morning I am just working – Or trying to. Charlie is being very high-maintenance, but not in a bad way. He keeps wanting stories and a hug and cereal and asking to go to the park. He’s being very sweet, which makes it that much harder that I have to work and can’t spend time with him (he’s on mid-winter break from school all this week). I told him we would have our lunch at the park, so at least that is something. In the meantime, I hope he will get occupied in something so I can work. I have so much work, I really need to catch up.

Ok, enough procrastinating in my blog. Going to try to work now…

I Keep Getting Free Coffee At Starbucks

February 15, 2009 by Sherryness, of course · Leave a Comment • Filed under: Starbucks 

I don’t know how my local Starbucks stays in business. The Starbucks near me with a drive-thru is the sloooooooowest Starbucks I have ever seen. I have spent 25 minutes in line with only 4 cars in front of me before. And they’re getting better, but they didn’t used to be very accurate, either. I’d drive away assuming I had my mocha, only to take a sip and realize I had something entirely different.

It was kind of like Christmas – investigating the label to see what kind of drink I’d been served this time. Vanilla latte? Hmmmm…. Its ok. I’d have preferred my mocha….

Oh, and they are just as slow if you go in. So I’ve decided I prefer to sit in my car and listen to music if I’m going to be made to wait. I only put up with it because they’re extremely handy, location-wise, and the only one in that area with a drive-thru.

Also, I wind up getting my coffee free about once every week or so! Apparently they have a policy where they just give it to you for free if you’ve had to wait more than 5 minutes. I’ll drive up, go to hand them my debit card, and they’ll just hand me my coffee and say, “It’s on us – Sorry about the wait!”

Oh, ok. “Thanks!” 🙂

It seems rude to check to see if my coffee was made correctly when they gave to me for free, so I just drive off, smiling. And take pot luck. It’s usually right… Usually… 🙂

Donna’s Birthday

February 15, 2009 by Sherryness, of course · 1 Comment • Filed under: Just Life 

Today was Donna’s 39th birthday – Yay! She wanted to go to Olive Garden, so Charlie and I met her and Erik there around 11 a.m. Charlie wasn’t on his best behavior but managed to turn it around a little bit. At least he didn’t hug the waiter and say that he loves him this time! Although that might have been preferable!

After that we went to Donna’s and had cake. I got her an iTunes gift certificate which she claims to love – I hope she does! Then I wanted to get her some earrings, but Charlie pointed to some really pretty ones while I was still looking, so I wound up getting those for her – So those were kind of from Charlie. Then Charlie picked out a candleholder with butterflies and some candles. I thought he actually made better choices for gifts for Donna than I did! I guess he has good taste. 🙂

After that I met briefly with a client, got a second round of coffee (which is one of the reasons why I feel like it’s only about 4:30 when it’s really nearly 9 p.m.!) and came home and worked. Oh, I forgot something at Donna’s so we had to drive back down there, so that was almost another hour.

So here I am working into the night, taking a little break to update my blog since I never do. Not that bad of a Sunday. I just wish we’d been able to go for a walk, but maybe tomorrow.

Blog meme – Fifty questions.

February 11, 2009 by Sherryness, of course · Leave a Comment • Filed under: Uncategorized 

Haven’t done one of these for a long time, so using it in place of an update:

50 Questions:

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought?
I need to use extra hair conditioner in the winter time.

2. How much cash do you have on you?
Around $6

3. What’s a word that rhymes with DOOR?

4. Favorite planet?
The moon, though technically it’s not, it still is.

5. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone?
My sis.

6. What is your favorite ring tone on your phone?
“All I Wanna Do I Have Some Fun” by Sheryl Crow

7. What shirt are you wearing?
Nightgown – it’s 11:30!

8. Do you label yourself?
Usually as a Mom.

9. Name the brand of the shoes you’re currently wearing?
I’m only wearing socks.

10. Bright or Dark Room?
Dark, usually. Glare gives me headache.

11. What do you think about the person who took this survey before you?
Funny blog.

12. What does your watch look like?
Silver, with etched filigree.

13. What were you doing at midnight last night?
Sleeping, or near to it.

14. What did your last text message you received on your cell say?

15. Where is your nearest 7-11?
About a mile east of me.

16. What’s a word that you say a lot?

17. Who told you he/she loved you last?

18. Last furry thing you touched?
My sister’s cat.

19. How many drugs have you done in the last three days?

20. How many rolls of film do you need developed?
None – I’ve gone fully digital.

21. Favorite age you have been so far?
Weird question

22. Your worst enemy?

23. What is your current desktop picture?
Redmond Town Center at night with Charlie in the distance going into a toy store.

24. What was the last thing you said to someone?
In e-mail or on phone or in person? Probably would have been, “Take care” , “Take care, bye” and “Thanks” respectively.

25. If you had to choose between a million bucks or to be able to fly what would it be?
The money – I’m scared of heights!

26. Do you like someone?

27. The last song you listened to?
“Sunspots” by Nine Inch Nails

28. What time of day were you born?
5 a.m. or something crazy like that.

29. What’s your favorite number?

30. Where did you live in 1987?
Walnut Creek, CA

31. Are you jealous of anyone?
Just of people with the freedom to travel a lot.

32. Is anyone jealous of you?
Possibly – I work for myself – a lot of people seem to be into that.

33. Where were you when 9/11 happened?
At home in Carnation, WA – Watched part of it unfold on tv – Depressing question!

34. What do you do when vending machines steal your money?
Look for a number to call, stare at it angrily for a minute, then decide it’s not worth my time.

35. Do you consider yourself kind?

36. If you had to get a tattoo, where would it be?
Some place on it couldn’t be seen – on my scalp under my hair, maybe.

37. If you could be fluent in any other language, what would it be?

38. Would you move for the person you loved?
I have in the past. From San Francisco to Miami.

39. Are you touchy feely?
Yes, with the right person.

40. What’s your life motto?
Keep trying til you get it right or chuck the whole thing. Don’t half-ass it.

41. Name three things that you have on you at all times?
My phone, my glasses, a pen.

42. What’s your favourite town/city?
Love Seattle & San Francisco almost equally. I like SF better itself, but have family & friends in Seattle so that carries a lot of weight.

43. What was the last thing you paid for with cash?
A mocha

44. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it?
If greeting cards count, just today.

45. Can you change the oil on a car?
Technically yes, I took auto shop in high school. But I prefer to leave it to the pros.

46. Your first love: what is the last thing you heard about him/her?
Crush or real love? That’s too ambiguous.

47. How far back do you know about your ancestry?
I know Christopher De(a)dman came to the U.S. from Sussex England some time in the 1600’s – that is way back on my Father’s side.

48. The last time you dressed fancy, what did you wear and why did you dress fancy?
Got dressed up to go to my friend Brad’s piano concert, but didn’t ever arrive because traffic was stopped dead on 520 for hours.

49. Does anything hurt on your body right now?
My back. I was too tense today.

50. Have you been burned by love?
Who hasn’t?

Just A Little Update, Yet Again

February 9, 2009 by Sherryness, of course · Leave a Comment • Filed under: Just Life 

I should really keep this blog updated so I don’t have to do these big updates!


Today is the 62nd anniversary of my Mom’s birth. Donna gave me flowers, and we went to lunch in Seattle. We always celebrate Mom’s birthday one way or another since she died and try to be extra-nice to each other. I’m sure she’d be pleased; she was always pleading with us to get along when we were kids! Anyway, Happy Birthday, Mom; we miss you!


I started on a book called ‘Labyrinth’ but have had almost no time to try to read it. I haven’t read enough to form any opinion of it yet.


Everything! Business is booming, which is wonderful. I now have a base of regular clients and new work coming in all the time. I’ve been learning PHP/MySQL which really helps increase the number of projects I am qualified to take on. Soon after that I am planning on developing my first WordPress theme from scratch. I’m not the greatest designer there ever was, but I think developing a theme from scratch will teach me a LOT and improve my skills/offerings that much more.


Lot’s of inner/spiritual improvements going on. In the last year, I’ve truly gone from simply trying to survive to actually feeling optimistic about life and hoping for things I’d kind of given up on. I’m actively working on the things I need to do to make positive changes and to truly be able to thrive and not just survive.


Life being totally single isn’t the most fun thing in the world, but it’s better than being in a bad relationship. I feel I’ve left behind constant stress, bad feelings, distrust and low self-esteem by standing alone and not running back to the “band-aid” relationship I had for so long with the person I was seeing after my divorce. That relationship coming right on top of my divorce left a very bad taste in my mouth for very long time. But I’m slowly but surely beginning to find that that is not all there is out there. And my “Relationship Status” has gone from “Single, Not-Looking” to “Single, and Slowly-Maybe-Opening-Up-To-New-Possibilities.” 🙂


All of my plans for my business are coming together with all kinds of exciting things in the works. I’m even branching out soon to Video Tutorials for my blog on Blog Solace for some of the more advanced WordPress plug-ins. This should bring in quite a bit of new traffic.

The trip to San Francisco is still on, but now Donna is planning to come with Charlie & Me for the first 3 days or so. It will be really fun to visit, *with her*, all our old stomping grounds and meander down memory lane. And meeting Brian is a must! If he has time for us between all his acting and VO gigs. 🙂

Anyway, the future looks bright – Exciting and promising possibilities . . .


I’m not really feelin’ a wrap-up. Life is fluid; it keeps moving and changing. Here’s to the next event on the horizon!

Charlie Update

January 26, 2009 by Sherryness, of course · Leave a Comment • Filed under: Charlie 

New post on AllAboutCharlie.com = Results I got today from his neuro testing two weeks ago.

I must say I’m not thrilled that they weren’t more helpful.  But it furthered my opinion that his senosry issues are causing his ADHD symptoms .

So much so that I came home and Googled my idea and found that I’m not the first to have this idea.  There is a book called The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder by Carol Stock Kranowitz.

And it is specifically about how ADHD is often mistakenly diagnosed (and drugged), when it’s really a sensory integration disorder that is causing discomfort and thus fidgeting and being easily distracted. I will definitely be pursuing sensory integration therapy before I consider adhd drugs again for Charlie. I don’t think they were right for him, and I often thought they were detrimental.

Charlie The Navigator

January 13, 2009 by Sherryness, of course · 2 Comments • Filed under: Charlie 

This morning Charlie and I were outside waiting for his bus, as usual.  And it got to be late, then later, then – “Ok, I’m calling dispatch, ’cause it is like way late now…” 

It turns out that the main road the buses are dispatched onto before heading out to their routes was basically a parking lot due to an accident or something, and it was going to be at least another 20 minutes before the bus got there.  So I decided just to drive Charlie to school, which was cool.  I had somewhere I had to go after he left, anyway.

So we headed out, and I realized I had to go on the same road that was basically a “parking lot” to get him *to* school.  I was a little bit worried, but I figured the traffic wouldn’t be a dead stop going both ways, and I was going the opposite direction the bus would have been, so figured it would be fine.

So I headed to that road, and on the way I passed an interstion of a road which, in the past, I had suspected would be a “short cut” to Charlie’s school.  But I’d never had time to really go exploring, so I didn’t know for sure.  But as we passed the intersection, Charlie said, “Mommy, you’re going the wrong way.  That’s the way to school – you passed it!”  Aha… so that is a shortcut from our house when going that direction after all!

The next intersection was the gridlocked one in question, and wow – it was a parking lot BOTH directions!  So I turned around and headed back to the street Charlie told me to turn onto and headed that way.  When I got to the street his school was on, I wasn’t sure if we were to the left or the right of it at that point, thus didn’t know which way to turn.  So I just asked the six-year-old navigator which way to go.

He said to turn left, and he’s always been good about knowing what city we’re in when we’re out & about and when we’re close to Donna’s house, etc., so I decided to believe him.  Plus, he had been that way before on the bus, and I hadn’t – so it made sense he would know.

And he did!  It was so cool, because he was so proud of himself.  Thanks to him, we got him to school on time (a little early, even) and he had the best day at school!  He was telling his one-on-one aid about how he knew the way to school and told Mommy and everything and just seemed so happy and proud.

When he came home, his daily report showed that he had had a really good day at school.  Maybe I should set up little easy-to-win challenges for him in the morning from now on.  Just to get him feeling good about himself and excited about the day.  It certainly seemed to make a difference today.

Plus, I was really impressed he directed me to school!  We probably would have sat in traffic for at least a half an hour if it weren’t for him being aware and knowing how to get to school. I was proud of him!

Just A Litte Update

December 22, 2008 by Sherryness, of course · Leave a Comment • Filed under: Just Life 


Wow, it just keeps snowing.  It let up enough to take Charlie to Donna’s to spend the night on Saturday, with plans for him to stay over Saturday and Sunday.  But now the weather is looking like getting him back tomorrow is going to be a challenge!  I have to do it, though.  He is driving her nuts.  LOL  If you’re not used to being around him all the time, two days in a row with him can be a bit much.  So I’m committed to getting him back tomorrow, for her sanity.  Plus I miss him!


The Savage Garden by Mark Mills – A story that started out a bit bland at first, but that has turned into one of amazing imagery and intrigue. It’s a murder mystery dating back 400 years and the setting is a garden. The garden is laid out in a very deliberate way, offering clues, to the keen eye, as to what really happened. Especially enjoyable if you love Italy and Renaissance art.  🙂


All of my favorite/regular clients have had work for me this month!  I love working on their sites and the fact that so many of my clients become my friends.  The work is very varied, and one of the jobs affords me the opportunity to learn aMember for WordPress!  So I’m especailly enjoying that.


Feeling really good about life.  Life seems to be finally normalizing.  I have a few different streams of steady income, which has been the basis of my nerves (or virtual nervous breakdown) for so long. Not knowing how to provide for Charlie.  Now my business is getting really regular and on the verge of thriving, and Donna has had a lot of work for me as well.  So I feel like I can concentrate on living instead of just trying to survive.  It helps me enjoy quality time with Charlie (since I’m not a nervous wreck all the time) and helps me get other neglected areas of my life sorted out, such as time for myself and working on my friendships.


I’ve cut out seeing Nicholas entirely.  This has been a long time coming, but as many of you know was a difficult thing just to “cut out.”  He’s been a part of my life, and Charlie’s too, since Charlie was 9 months old. It’s for the best, as I’m sure each person in my life would agree (and probably cheer). Among other things, there was no way I was ever going to move on and find someone new with him in my life, and there was no future for us beyond what we had already achieved – which was mostly just fighting about our relationship. It wasn’t good for either one of us, and it’s over.


This next year is going to be about building my business, working with Charlie on his challenges, and probably moving to Redmond or Bellevue.  Bothell is a bit too far out of my usual stomping grounds for me, plus this townhome is a little bit too expensive for me.  My lease is up May 1st, and I plan to move then.

I also plan to start to get my life back a bit, with more time for “me.”  I’ve just been taking care of Charlie for so long and nothing else, that I really lost myself a bit.  I hope to socialize more, repair some neglected friendships and make new friends.

I also want to take a vacation next summer.  Charlie loves the movie “Homeward Bound II” – the live action movie with the “two dogs and one cat” as Charlie says!  It takes place in San Francisco, and he said, “Mommy, is there a Golden Gate Bridge in Erf?” (which means “Earth,” which to him means “Is there really such a thing as a Golden Gate Bridge, or was that made up for TV?”)  And I told him yes, and he said, “Can we go there someday?”  So I said sure, we can go on vacation next year.

Next year I won’t have been back to San Francisco for 8 full years, and I think it’s time I did.  There are a lot of “hauntings” there – That’s where I spent my teen years well into my twenties, and it’s where my Mom still lived when she died.  The few times I’ve been back, I’ve seen her everywhere I would go, there.  And so, so many memories, good and bad, everywhere.  Massive nostalgia – so much history.  It was so overwhelming I just haven’t wanted to go back.

But I did love it there, and I would love to go there with my own kid and show him around.  Show him the fun things I used to do, places I used to go, where I went to school and lived.  I think it would be a good thing. And to show him that there really is a Golden Gate Bridge “in Erf.” LOL  There’s also someone there I’d like to say hello to, my first and favorite client – or as he says, “Client-Schmient” ’cause we’re friends now!  That would be awesome, right Brian?  🙂


I’ll leave you all with this video I took out my front window today – Snow and more snow!

The Blog Is Back

December 13, 2008 by Sherryness, of course · Leave a Comment • Filed under: Just Life 

I’m still working on the re-design, but I’m happy enough with it to get it going again!  So there’s no putting it off – Time to get blogging again!

Last night I was supposed to go see my friend Brad play piano at Studio Seven in Seattle.  I was really looking foward to it for several reasons, the biggest two being that I’ve never seen him perform before and this was the only night Donna could babysit Charlie for the whole holiday season, and I wasn’t going to get to go out at all otherwise.

So I was very happy yesterday to be going out – made my preparations, wore a brand new nice sparkly outfit, all of that stuff.  Took Charlie to meet Donna at Chuck E Cheese in Bellevue at 4:15, and the traffic wasn’t even that bad getting there – so far……  But then….

I wanted to be at the club when they opened at 5:30 so I could hang out with Brad a bit then see him play when he went on.  He was the first one on at 6:00 p.m. (It was a Starbucks showcase of several different musicians), so I absolutely had to be there by then.

So dropping Charlie at 4:15, I felt pretty good about being at the club between about 5:30 and 5:45, even with Friday night traffic (it’s normally about a half hour drive or less with no traffic).  But it was not to be.  My entire evening took place in my car!

Stalled vehicles and other problems on I-5 in Seattle caused severe problems on both 520 and I-90, and I spent TWO HOURS in my car on the freeway and never got out of Bellevue.  I literally got on the freeway at 4:15 and got off the freeway at the very next exit 2 hours later.  Thus missing the performace.

I was supposed to be back to pick up Charlie by 7:15, so I couldn’t even go to the club and see any of the other performers either.  I drove back to Chuck E Cheese, picked up Charlie, and drove home in terrible traffic.  Not the evening I had planned!

Fortunately Donna has said she can babysit on the 20th, and I have a few different things I can do that night, so the entire holiday party season isn’t a bust!  And I’m sure I’ll get to see Brad perform at some point.  If you’d like to see him play, he has a video up on YouTube here.

Other than that, I’ve just been working hard – Business has been steady, if a bit slow.  Fortunately my hosting sales have been good, which is something I’m really working on increasing.  I really like that aspect of it, and my customer service skills are really a big part of why people choose me for hosting over some big company.  It’s high-quality hosting and the servers are not “oversold,” so it’s a really good choice for WordPress installations.  I didn’t mean for this to turn into a sales pitch, but if you’re interested in hosting, here is my hosting sales page:  Blog Solace Web Hosting

Charlie is doing ok in school but still having a lot of problems.  I’m encouraged by the attitude of his new teachers and prinicipal, though.  And he has an appointment at Children’s Hospital in January (finally) for further neurological testing, so hopefully that will help narrow down what his actual probelms are and the best way to help him.

Other than that, I’ve just been using Twitter a lot.  I realized I was Twittering so much, I might as bring back my blog.  So I did!  That badge in the upper, right-hand corner has my most recent “Tweet” in it and links back to my Twitter updates.  Add me if you Twitter!

All Over The Map Today

October 22, 2008 by Sherryness, of course · 2 Comments • Filed under: Just Life 

Today started with my alarm not going off!  So Charlie missed the bus, and I had to take him to school.  When I got to school, they asked Charlie which lunch he wanted – the chili or the chili-cheese wrap.  Having never had either of these contraptions, he wasn’t sure what to say, so he just chose chili.  He took his admittance slip and went to class, and I headed back home.

When I got home, my phone rang and it was the Special Ed coordinator of Charlie’s school.  She was letting me know that they agreed to all the things I wanted for Charlie if I was going to allow him to move to yet another new school.  Including a visit to the new school with his principal before the move, a  one-on-one aide, increased speech therapy and a new I.E.P. meeting and new I.E.P.  So now it’s official – Charlie will be going to a new school on Monday.

I decided to go to the new school to get the registration/emergency notification paperwork filled out ahead of time.  I forgot my directions that I had printed out, so I pulled into a Tully’s parking lot and scammed some Wi-Fi and got the address and directions off the ‘net with my iPod touch.  Better than driving all the way back home!

Anyway, while I was at the school, the principal and Charlie’s new teacher happened to be free and asked me to join an impromptu meeting.  I met with them and told them all I could about Charlie and his history, what to expect, etc.

And regarding the move, interestingly they both seemed to be on my side.  That moving him was a bad idea, and for all the same reasons.  And didn’t believe the solution was solid.  I was encouraged by how much time they took to hear about Charlie and how genuinely concerned they were.  I was also encouraged that I was dealing with reasonable people for a change.   Hopefully it will be a smooth transition and the true start to Charlie’s 1st grade and making a lot of progress this year.

After that I drove back home via Woodinville and got some $2.89/gal gasoline at Arco and headed home.  When Charlie’s bus arrived, he told me he was very hungry and wanted a snack because the chili was “too spicy.”  I suspected that – why would they feed kids chili?  I think that’s really weird.  So I got him a snack and some water for the car and then took him to Bellevue to my sister’s so she could take him to Chuck E. Cheese – and here I sit – kidless in a quiet house, writing in my blog!  For the next hour, anyway.  Yay!

So today I went from Bothell to Redmond to Bothell to Kenmore to Woodinville to Bothell to Bellevue and back to Bothell.  Fortunately the scenery was gorgeous and the day was sunny and bright, showing off all the colors of the autumn leaves.  So while I’d rather have taken a walk in it, at least I got to enjoy it from my car.  And at least since I had some annoying errands to do, I got to enjoy the journey.

And on the subject of “locations,” I have had some interesting hits to my blog lately, according to sitemeter.  Two hits in the last week from the Waterloo in Europe and one today from the Waterloo in Canada.  What is the universe trying to tell me?

The only thing it makes me think of (besides Napoleon and the palendrome that goes “Able was I ere I saw elbA.”) is this:


Which, of course, also makes me think of this:


So like I said, all over the map today!  Waterloo, too!

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